The Safety in Sabotage
 Not more than 10 minutes into the session Pam says “Why on earth would I do that?” -- this after her excited account of her 15-pound weight loss and after telling me how she finally felt that it was going to be different this time.
She couldn’t understand how she could blow it so badly.
Her story continued……. "I was feeling so good. I felt I had a new routine that I could actually follow. It was seeming so easy."
“Then what happened?” I asked
“A guy in the lunch room said hi to me ... and that he liked my outfit. At first I was happy; then the next thing you know I am at the vending machine. It didn’t stop. That night I continued to eat. I actually went to the store and bought junk food.
"Now I feel miserable and I don’t understand."
Obviously there is more to this story and I am paraphrasing. Pam wasn’t aware that deep down she was really afraid. She thought she wanted to be thin ... even longed for it.
But as soon as she started to trim down, this feeling came over her that she was not safe. As much as she hated being overweight she came to realize she had felt a sense of safety in her way of being.
Childhood memories of scarcity and “icky looks” from her Mom’s boyfriends had caused her to find safety in food and safety in being overweight. At our appointment this day she learned what the “real” issue was and by healing those thoughts and beliefs she was able to continue her lifestyle change without that fear.
Have you noticed repeated efforts at change that always result in self sabotage?
It might show up in your attempt at weight loss or to quit smoking; maybe clutter or picking bad relationships.
If you find your attempts to change result in sabotage maybe there is something you are not aware of or maybe you are aware but you don’t know how to stop it.
This is what Soul Escape is about. Helping you uncover and heal the unconscious beliefs that are keeping you from what you really want.
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